#7:. Blaming their partner for all of the problems in their relationship.
Guys have a Taylor Swift problem: Every one of their exes is the bitch that broke their heart, instead of a flawed human being that it didn’t work out with. We all have those previous partners with whom you wouldn’t want to be in the same room ever again, but if all of your exes are the problem, if you notice a particular pattern in your relationships and if you’re completely unable to take responsibility for your share in that, they might not be the problem. You’re the problem.
#8:. Using dates to vent about their previous relationships.
Anyone who thinks that exes won’t come up on a date is cuckoo bananas. When we’re telling stories about our lives and our pasts, the people we’ve dated are a part of that. Shit’s going to come up. That said, no one wants to hear the storied, sordid history of your previous relationship on a first date. That’s the kind of admission you make after building trust and knowing you can confide in someone who will listen — instead of bombarding someone when they don’t know you yet. A date is an audition for another date, not free therapy. Just because you might be paying for dinner doesn’t mean you’re financing a two-hour emotional dump. When going out with someone, you should make it about the person you’re with, not the people you’ve been with. Two is company. Nine is a baseball team, not a date.