#9:. Spending the entire date on their phone.
This is a particular gay boy problem — but one that affects their straight male counterparts as well. I once sat next to two gays who were having dinner at a nice restaurant, a date in which they spent the greater portion on their phones, barely attempting to communicate. I figured that they were in a soulless LTR, one of those relationships where they’re staying together for the kids — or at least the clothes. (Same-sex relationships double your wardrobe.) But no. This was a first date. How can you get to know someone if you’re staring at Facebook? You can’t. They don’t live in your phone, unless they’ve been trapped by a sorcerer’s evil spell. If so, then you have a lot worse problems than Facebook.
#10:. Disappearing and then reappearing like it was nothing.
My friend was seeing this guy a couple months ago who just stopped texting her — but finally got around to contacting her again yesterday. He wanted to have sex, of course, as if not talking to someone entitled him to downgrading that person to a fuckbuddy. He also didn’t see anything wrong with this situation. That’s not how it works. It’s unrealistic (and juvenile) to expect that someone will always text you back right away, but you shouldn’t get a parade for deigning to show up. Be accountable to your own bullshit and be aware of the influence you have on others. Being a good person isn’t hard, but it starts by thinking about someone other than yourself. This is what adulthood means.